Not Feeling It This Christmas?
We hear you.
Contrary to what social media would have us believe, we know that not everyone can simply switch on the smiles come December 1st. And, in fact, during a time of supposed togetherness, some of us can find ourselves feeling more isolated than usual.
So, when we recently discovered the amazing, Devon-based counsellor, wellness life coach and personal trainer Alex Fox who is, quite frankly, someone we all need on speed dial, we knew she could bring some welcome clarity to a time of chaos.
Here are Alex’s words of wisdom to help you navigate this season…
Ahhh, Christmas. The most wonderful time of the year, right? Full of festive cheer, that magical sense of togetherness, indulgent food and drink and the time to reflect on the year’s achievements, highs and lows…
All sounds “wonderful”. Right?
But what if your heart and head didn’t get the memo this year? What if, inside, you’re feeling less lit up and actually more lonely? Ironically, you’re not alone.
Feeling this way at Christmas can be especially difficult. For those without close connections, the contrast can intensify those feelings of isolation, sadness or longing for meaningful relationships. Loneliness during this time may come from a previous loss, a distance between loved ones, or a longing for connection.
First, it’s important to understand that these feelings are not only valid, but shared by many others during this season. Don’t be fooled by everyone else’s ‘highlights reel’. And second, it’s vital to find ways to care for yourself during this time, to help comfort and ease the weight of loneliness.
Here’s how:
1/ Connect with others.
The festive season is an ideal time to nurture connections. Reach out to a friend, join community events, or simply share meaningful moments with those around you. Volunteering with a charitable organisation can also bring a deep sense of purpose and meaning, as giving back not only helps others but can also uplift your own spirits. Community events, such as carol singing, festive markets, or group activities, offer opportunities to meet new people and foster a sense of belonging.
2/ Be aware of your feelings.
Being aware of your feelings at Christmas is important because the season can bring a mix of emotions—joy, excitement, nostalgia, or even sadness and stress. By acknowledging how you feel, you give yourself permission to process emotions rather than suppress them, which can prevent overwhelm.
Self-awareness helps you identify your needs and set boundaries, allowing you to navigate the holidays in a way that feels authentic and manageable. It also fosters greater empathy for yourself and others, helping you respond with kindness during moments of tension or vulnerability. Christmas can be a meaningful time, but staying in tune with your emotions ensures that it aligns with what truly matters to you.
3/Keep a routine.
Maintaining structure in your routine during Christmas is important because it helps balance the excitement and demands of the season with your well-being. A consistent routine provides a sense of stability amidst the festive chaos, reducing stress and preventing overwhelm. It ensures you prioritize self-care, such as eating well, staying active, and getting enough rest, so you can fully enjoy the celebrations without feeling drained. Structure also helps maintain focus on your personal goals and needs, allowing you to navigate the season with a sense of control and balance.
4/ Do things you enjoy.
Treat yourself to something you like. Buying yourself a gift can be a good way make yourself feel good. Engaging in activities you enjoy can be a powerful way to boost your mood and prioritise your wellbeing, especially during busy or challenging times. Treating yourself to something you love can reinforce self-worth and bring moments of happiness. These small acts of kindness toward yourself help create positive emotions and a sense of self-care, reminding you that your happiness matters. Taking time to indulge in what makes you feel good can recharge your energy and uplift your spirit, creating a ripple effect of positivity in your daily life.
5/ Use social media wisely
Be mindful of how you interact with social media, especially during times when it’s flooded with idealised images and holiday highlights.
While it can be a great tool for staying connected, it can also trigger comparisons, feelings of inadequacy and heighten the feelings of loneliness.
Set boundaries around your usage—limit screen time, unfollow accounts that don’t make you feel good, and prioritise content that uplifts or inspires you. Focus on authentic connections by engaging with supportive communities or reaching out to loved ones. Remember, social media is a curated highlight reel, and your worth isn’t defined by what you see online. Use it in a way that supports your mental wellbeing and enriches your life.
Also, post the things you’re doing at Christmas; you never know, this may spark conversations with people who maybe in a similar situation to you.
6/ Go outside.
Being in nature during the Christmas period is vital for mental well-being, as it provides a refreshing escape from the often hectic indoor festivities.
Fresh air and natural light help boost mood by increasing serotonin levels, while gentle movement, like a walk, reduces stress and anxiety. Spending time in nature encourages mindfulness, offering a chance to pause, reflect, and appreciate the beauty of the season—whether it’s crisp winter air, sparkling frost, or festive decorations. This connection with nature can help combat feelings of overwhelm or loneliness, fostering a sense of calm and rejuvenation during the busy holiday period.
She’s good, right?
If you found these words a balm to the soul and crave more, then you’ll be pleased to hear that there are many ways you can work with Alex through her business Flourish With Fox. Find out more and get in touch below - it’ll be the best New Year’s resolution you make!
